On Something Better Coming Along

Something better can always come along.  

A better deal.  A better job.  A better home.  A better partner.  

Part of the better is in the newness and novelty.  

Part of the better is in the comparison to what we don't have.

Part of the better is in the comparison to what we do have that we're unhappy with. 

All of the better is tied to hope, possibility, and transformation.  

Hope for a brighter future.  The possibility of dreams being realized.  The transformation into a better me.   

In essence, they hold the potential of a better life.

But no matter what "better" we choose, it will eventually become our everyday reality, normalized in the same way the previous "better" we chose became the mundane.

So to determine whether the "better" is something we actually want (vs. a societal definition we've been given) that turns into the everyday reality that actually results in a better life, we have to specify and detail out what better means to each of us. 

Beyond more money, status, and prestige, what does a better job mean to you?  

More responsibility to develop skills that will level up your career?

More challenging projects that will push you to learn and grow in your area of expertise?

More engaged leadership that can inspire and lead you to make the impact you want on the world?  

More flexibility to set your own hours so you can take care of your mental health in ways that make sense for you?

More empathy so you feel treated like a human instead of a cog in the wheel?

Knowing our unique definition of better helps us recognize it in what we already have and when it appears.  But it also empowers us to actively seek it out.  Knowing what shape it takes gives us confidence in choosing it as well as asking for it.  

It's clearer and more usable than simply wanting better.


🙏🙏,

Pam